As parents,  we are expected to be perfect.  People can refute the statement,  by saying since when?  But we all know we do and you do.
Even as a person, we are expected to follow the morals of what the society wants us to be. 

I broke most aspects of it . Sociology taught me we play different roles,  and we are actors on our stage.

When it comes to parenting,  I only can try to be the best that I can,  imparting the good values.  However , when quarrels arises,  the anger get the better of us. 

I can see myself replaying the scenes over and over again. Only to realise how scared my kid was,  now that Royce is older,  he understands what is going on. 

Remembering a scene where I quarrelled with my mother-in-law,  the anger makes blood literally raised to my head and it clouded the judgement. I did my worst , and I am not proud but it did not surprised me that I did what I did.  I was only glad that my maid stopped me.

But when I turned around, I saw Royce and he was afraid and he stood in that spot looking at us. That expression etched in my memory,  knew that he will remember that scene for I don't know how long.

And that was my memory that I knew I had to stop.  I avoided my mother-in-law for the period of time she stayed in my house till the time she moved out. There was no better solution but I wanted to prevent it from happening again. 

However that didn't stopped me,  from quarrelling with my husband. Tension will rise and we are both strong - minded or obstinate for a better word.  The little one,  was the one whom on twice the occasion,  put out his both hands like traffic policeman . He called out to us,  'Stop,  stop'

These incidents really reduced my quarrels in my marriage, it did not abruptly stopped but it did gradually overtime. For instance, both me and Ronald stopped immediately when little Royce did that before the quarrel escalated.

It was because of those incidents , i knew that Royce was learning and he remembers

I often hug my husband in front of my kids and go into group hug mode with them.  Or I will affectionately kiss my husband on his lips . Often I find Adele and Royce climbing into my bed in the morning,  and group hug me or me and my husband.
Royce being the bigger one will kiss me on my lips,  not that I have problem with that.  But more on how I stopped him from doing that to his guy and girl classmates.

So the video educating us,  on the impression imprinted the kids memories.  Which I strongly agree,  happy watching the video in the link below.

When it comes to kids, role modelling is everything